When I have a kid…..

So, I’m doing my grocery shopping today and I happen to bump into an acquaintance of mine from b.c.( before children), and I have the little’uns with me, as always. We’re chatting uncomfortably and my boy, 18 months, pulls my girls(2 1/2) hair. I say “God, if you do that again today I’ll just scream” and kind of laugh awkwardly because this is not unusual to me, it happens daily, but I knew what she was thinking which is the old “when I have kids…”. Anyways she turns and says to me “I have this friend, Dee, and she has a beautiful little boy. He’s three and just sooo well behaved. I think the trick is she just really enjoys him, y’know just plays with him all the time ‘nd stuff. She’s totally into motherhood, that’s how I wanna be.” . It was her tone, so judgemental.

Now I happen to also be acquainted with Dee, and I happen to know that her trick is to work 30 hours in a usually stress free environment, she works in a pharmacy in the perfume section. Her beautiful little boy is in nursery from 8.30 until 5.30 on the days she works which is a deficit of 20 hours, and like my kids, he is in bed by 7.30. I have previously spoken to Dee on this subject, in fact it was her very own statement, “I have it so easy”. So I say to this girl “What planet are you on have you seen her life?”. And just like that as if on cue, my girl says “big girl toilet, quickly, quickly!”. And so I run, thank goodness.

If I had not have run this may have been what I could’ve said in a blind rage against people who say the infamous “When I have kids…”:

Hold on there, I enjoy my kids just fine missy, just who do you think you are? Do you know the realities of parenthood? NO. Do you realise the difficulties in spending your every minute with the same, little people? NO. Do you have any idea of the constant battles a parent faces? No. And I’ll bet after this conversation you won’t want to either. I’m sorry I lashed out like that, god I’m just so embarrassed. Please don’t judge me. Bye.

Hence the thank goodness. Moral, If you are childless don’t utter those previously mentioned infamous words to a cranky mom. Also I do really love and enjoy my kids just in case any one is dialling for emergency services right now.

Before I leave you I would like to add that I am still going strong, have’nt broken yet, but I’m simply too hungry tonight to write about food/diet/exercise/all of the above.

As always, comments are welcome.


10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. leannenalani
    Mar 09, 2013 @ 03:58:18

    I’m totally clueless about kids but one day…

    As a teacher, I try not to pretend like I know what it’s like to be a parent just because I teach them. Like I know what it’s like to have students, but not what it’s like to raise children. I have a feeling that once I have my own kids, my teaching will be more enriched and I’ll have a new perspective on working with kids.


    • findingmeunderthefat
      Mar 09, 2013 @ 04:45:18

      I know people who don’t have kids can be great with them, but there is a difference. A parent is responsible, for the most part, in their childs outcome in life. That really is what makes the difference. Being a teacher will really make you more conscious of your decisions, you’ve probably seen it all!


  2. littlemisselephant
    Mar 09, 2013 @ 10:15:37

    Sucks that she had that outlook. I am absolutely petrified of having kids; I’d be so scared I’d just mess them up. Still not a problem atm; focusing on me. What I’m really worried about is you feeling hungry. Not good. Even though you’re restricting your types of food, there’s no need for you to feel like you’re not getting enough. Hunger is your body’s way of telling you you need something (or so I think). Have you thought about eating less but more frequently throughout the day? That works for me. Keep going!


    • findingmeunderthefat
      Mar 09, 2013 @ 10:40:33

      The problem with my hunger is this, I eat fine during the day and am fairly satisfied, however I have my dinner with my kids at 5, And then I’m a pretty poor sleeper so I generally am up late. This is the time when I write, which is why I’m always hungry. Thanks for the tip though, maybe if I break it down into more frequent meals I might remain satisfied for longer.


      • littlemisselephant
        Mar 09, 2013 @ 12:47:27

        I used to have the exact same problem, which is why I switched to a more european style of eating, where I eat breakfast, have a midday snack, lunch at 3, snack at 5.30 then dinner at 8. We sort of get into this mindset that we can’t eat late but it works for many nations that are much healthier! Good luck in finding what works for you 🙂

      • findingmeunderthefat
        Mar 09, 2013 @ 13:15:23

        Thanks for the advice!

  3. The Thin Lady Inside
    Mar 09, 2013 @ 15:55:09

    Hi Samantha! Nice to meet you! Welcome to the “blogging world” 🙂 I am sorry about the comments from your friend, I know what you’re saying… your friend Dee certainly has it “easy” but … at the same time… she’s missing out on so much! Sometimes I feel horrible for finding myself stressed out about my 4 and 2 yr. old so often… but I wouldn’t trade my “job” for anything in the world! 🙂 Your girl had such good timing! 🙂 That’s great you could run away! 🙂 … Be encouraged with your weight loss journey! You can do it!


  4. grooms86
    Mar 11, 2013 @ 15:06:46

    I admit, I was one of those, “when I have kids”-ers… but I never SAID anything. Now that I have a kind, though, whoosh. Let’s just say I’m glad no one has said anything to me like that ’cause I probably would have been pretty rude. Thank goodness for kids’ timing.


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